being the other guy, can be draining

by rudy
(los angeles,ca us)

Been seeing MW for 2 yrs now.She claims has been with verbally abusive husband over 25 yrs now.Is not in love with him.Still living with him.We get together once a week or so,talk on phone everyday.We tell each other we love one another all the time.Lately the last few months hasn't mentioned any complaints about husband.They seem to be getting along now.Should I be concerned she'll dump me now?We still have strong feelings for each other.She still calls me all of the time.Is she just having her cake and eating it too.Maybe I should call it off.I feel caught between a rock and hard place.Any advice out there?

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being the other guy, can be draining

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Apr 24, 2012
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I agree with anonymous NEW
by: Anonymous

I believe there's never a good reason to cheat on your spouse.Bottom line if counceling doesn't resolve your problems in your marriage.Seperate first, then decide if you're going to want to stay in your marriage.If the answer is no then divorce.Then you can start dating when you feel ready to.Cheating will only complicate your situation and not allow you to think clearly about it.And if you have kids don't show them that type of example.Cheating will only make you look like the decietful party.

Apr 24, 2012
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by: ron

I agree with you,You need to know her husband treats her like crap and expects she should still be his loving wife.If a man disrespects her and is a terd himself to her,he is driving her away from him.What should he expect is going to happen?Her always be a subserviant wimpy weak woman to him?If you mistreat your wife don't be surprized if she finds love with a man that will treat her like a lady.Just because you are her husband doesn't mean you can treat her like crap and expect she will look at you as her hero.Love doesn't work that way.I guess you need to treat your wife lovingly and 99% of the time she won't look for love outside your marriage.Most woman cheat because they are driven to it by a jerk,Asshole of a husband.Most of the time...

Apr 24, 2012
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by: ron

I agree with you,You need to know her husband treats her like crap and expects she should still be his loving wife.If a man disrespects her and is a terd himself to her,he is driving her away from him.What should he expect is going to happen?Her always be a subserviant wimpy weak woman to him?If you mistreat your wife don't be surprized if she finds love with a man that will treat her like a lady.Just because you are her husband doesn't mean you can treat her like crap and expect she will look at you as her hero.Love doesn't work that way.I guess you need to treat your wife lovingly and 99% of the time she won't look for love outside your marriage.Most woman cheat because they are driven to it by a jerk,Asshole of a husband.Most of the time...

Apr 24, 2012
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in response to Anonymous NEW
by: ron

I agree with you,You need to know her husband treats her like crap and expects she should still be his loving wife.If a man disrespects her and is a terd himself to her,he is driving her away from him.What should he expect is going to happen?Her always be a subserviant wimpy weak woman to him?If you mistreat your wife don't be surprized if she finds love with a man that will treat her like a lady.Just because you are her husband doesn't mean you can treat her like crap and expect she will look at you as her hero.Love doesn't work that way.I guess you need to treat your wife lovingly and 99% of the time she won't look for love outside your marriage.Most woman cheat because they are driven to it by a jerk,Asshole of a husband.Most of the time...

Apr 22, 2012
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You are a coward NEW
by: Anonymous

The reason her marriage is troubled is because she is a sneaky deceitful cheat and her husband can sense it. He may not be able to prove it, but believe me, he knows. I know this because my wife does the same thing. I was in another country talking to her on the phone when I sensed she was cheating on me. I returned home and that feeling was reinforced when I looked in her eyes and knew that she was cheating. A few months later a random lady contacted me on facebook and asked to meet me. Sure enough, this lady was married to the dude my wife was cheating with and had the proof. I tried to get her to stop, and so did the wife who contacted me. They promised to stop, but only resorted to sneakier and more deceitful ways to carry on their affair. I sensed it every time and our marriage and family have been destroyed by her selfish deceitful ways. You two are not in love. You are both only after self gratification and resorting to deceit and lying to get it from one another. You justify it by blaming her husband when he is not the one at fault. Neither she nor her husband are meeting each other's needs in their marriage. He could resort to cheating, just like she chooses to do with you. He is better than she is. You are a selfish deceitful coward who is hellbent on destroying this woman's marriage for your own gratification. You are getting your jollies with this woman, and justifying your evil deeds by blaming her husband. You are a lowlife worthless pile of crap

Feb 17, 2012
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you're a wimp NEW
by: ron

If you're messing around with a married woman you deserve to get your face punched in.You're boinking another mans wife you idiot.She deserves to be kicked to the curb too.She's a lying cheating coward.Tell her to Geta f-ing divorce first then she can screw around as much as she wants,without doing it behind her dumb ass husbands back!She has no integrity what so ever.You to deserve each other.Then you can worry about who will cheat on who first you weasels...

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