Dating a Married Woman

by Shawn
(Texas)

I can relate to what others are writing, but I am a man seeing a married woman. In fact, I just sent her an email telling her to NOT contact me again. I hope I can be strong enough to abide by this and to also not contact her again.

So it's been going on for 7 months now. Luckily she lives in another state or we'd be in a much bigger mess. We met innocently online via a common interest. We traded several emails and then we started flirting. We've actually gotten together in person twice. She has told me (even from the first couple of emails) that she and her husband are not happy. He doesn't listen to her, doesn't give her attention, ignores her, etc. They have no children, yet she is still there. Her mom lives in the same town as she does and I have heard for months, how she is going to move in with her mother and ask her husband for a divorce. Yet something always happens. She claims they are now in seperate bedrooms and of course haven't had sex since she and I began talking.

She gets jealous if I talk to other women, turns the tables on me whenever I've tried to break up with her by telling me how horribly I've broken her heart and has even once told me she now knows what suicidal people feel like. Whenever her husband is off work, she either sneaks around to email me or ignores me altogether. Then as soon as he goes back to work, I hear from her again.

It's been a vicious, heartbreaking circle over and over again. So today, I finally found the strength to say, "enough." Please help me to be strong.

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Dating a Married Woman

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Nov 28, 2011
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move on dude NEW
by: rudy

Sucks being lied to doesn't it.Trust your instincts on this one dude.She's playing you and her dumb husband.Don't let her have her cake and eat it too.Time to kick her to the curb and move on.Let her keep her loser husband and her misery too.Why make her problems yours? Be done with this one and Move On....On to one that's Not married....

Jan 26, 2011
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Good Luck
by: Latenite

Click that delete button Shawn everytime you feel the need to email her.
Sure you can sit and type it all out what you want to say to her, go ahead do that. I recommend it. Then when your done...READ IT. What are you saying to her ? What is the substance of your email ? Then ask yourself, is this the girl I really want to continue on with and are these going to be the best topics of our conversations ?
I certainly don't know what you would write to her, but definately think about the substance of the conversation in your email before you hit that send button. Don't open up a can of worms. Good Luck..

Jan 25, 2011
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Thanks
by: Shawn

Thanks for the comments, ladies. I was tempted to email her today but came here and read your comments instead. Still staying strong.

Thanks!!
Shawn

Jan 19, 2011
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The Vicious Cycle
by: Latenite

Hi Shawn,

I welcome men to share stories ( no its not my site, but this is a turn) !
Reading the ( what seems to be habitual) behavior, her turning things around on you ( guilt trip)and then mentioning this is what suicidal people feel like ( self pitty) and then the ignoring you issue are all what seems to me would be how your relationship with her would continue to be. Not Healthy !
In this circumstance, I feel she has lied to you. The way she has been acting is probably how she acts with her hubby, and then when she don't get her own way she calls you. Sociopathic maybe? Narcassistic comes to mind. She is not caring how others feel, but its all about her. Yep, good move Shawn, run far and fast buddy ! Her jealousy, is about her too. She wants all attention on her, and I am sure this is what her marriage suffers. Regardless, of what she tells you..retierating sleeping in seperate rooms ect. Probably when she has one of her tantrums they sleep seperately. I know women's behaviors trust me lol. ( I am woman ! ha ha)
Her jealousy would get worse, and my guess you'd be having many fights over this. Yep, stay strong and find someone who can be friends with your female friends as well as your male friends respectfully. Someone you can laugh with, and enjoy each others company without it turning into an all out fight in the middle over something stupid. GO have some fun, and do it safely. Remember you cannot judge a book by its cover. Get to know someone from the inside out, and pay close attention to the topics of her choice. This should give a good clue whats really on her mind most of the time.
If a woman always sits and talks to you about her ex boyfriend, or her husband, or is always complaining about this or that, and does not seem to have intelligent conversations to carry on with you then best beware.

Good Luck ! Keep Looking !

Jan 19, 2011
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you know in your heart
by: Anonymous

wow. a man on here.you answered your own question.no kids..and she is still not makeing a move,no excuse is there.if these people really wanted us they would not watch us suffer.as for sleeping in seperate rooms...you must be kidding !!! they all tell the same lies my friend.i got rid of my mm 2 years ago,but still like to hepl people on here.get out of this.be strong,do it for you.you desrve someone who is free to love you.the bullshit that comes from married poeple in ( unhappy marridges ) never ends,trust me..you have done the best thing for you.she wont kill her self.people that say that never do.think of you my friend.goodluck and stay strong.xxxoh and soory,but,she is sleeping with here husband.dont be blinded by your feelings.they will pass and it does get better.xxx

Jan 19, 2011
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you know in your heart
by: Anonymous

wow. a man on here.you answered your own question.no kids..and she is still not makeing a move,no excuse is there.if these people really wanted us they would not watch us suffer.as for sleeping in seperate rooms...you must be kidding !!! they all tell the same lies my friend.i got rid of my mm 2 years ago,but still like to hepl people on here.get out of this.be strong,do it for you.you desrve someone who is free to love you.the bullshit that comes from married poeple in ( unhappy marridges ) never ends,trust me..you have done the best thing for you.she wont kill her self.people that say that never do.think of you my friend.goodluck and stay strong.xxxoh and soory,but,she is sleeping with here husband.dont be blinded by your feelings.they will pass and it does get better.xxx

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