I have been dating a married man for two years!

by Carolina
(UK)

Thank you so much for this site. I have just finished a two year relationship with a married man. I am just about to turn 40yrs old and thought I had met the man of my dreams. He told me his relationship with his wife had been over for years but he didn't have the guts to leave because he loved his children so much. He said that since we had met he realised he had to put his future happiness first and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.

I have kept this relationship a secret from my family and friends because I am so ashamed of seeing a married man. I convinced myself we loved each other so much that we were just meant to be.

But I have been so unhappy and fed up with feeling disappointed when he moves the goal post without even telling me. I have to just find things out because he is too much of a coward to talk to me. Everytime I push for a descion 'end it with me or leave'...he ends up making me feel sorry for him and I agree to anything.

I suddenly thought to myself what happens if I actually do get this man! Do I really want him? Do I want to break his wife's heart and his children just to make me happy? And will I actually ever be happy with this man who not only cheats but puts his own happiness above his beautiful children? The answer is no. I want a man who could never contemplate leaving his children, I want a man who is faithful. If his married is so over why hasn't he left years ago? Answer money - and he loves his kids. Do I want to be the woman that takes a dad away from his kids? Answer no - let it be someone else, let them have the years of tears and heartache.

I deserve and want better, I want a faithful husband and someone who does what he says he is going to do!

Thank you once again for this site keeping me on the right track...

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Sep 17, 2013
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THIS IS MY TESTIMONY ABOUT THE GOOD WORK OF ATILA NEW
by: Stacey Bruno


I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit. I meant a man who's name is Dr ATILA he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one's gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I'm now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 5 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn't believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is atilahealinghome@yahoo.com

Oct 29, 2012
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Be Strong!! NEW
by: Anonymous

I walked away from a four year non-relationship relationship and it was the hardest thing I ever did. It has been one month but I know it was the right thing to do. You deserve a good man who is yours and only yours. There will be some really bad days but know that in the end you will be happy with your decision to walk away. You hold the power to be happy. I thought I was the only one who ever had this much difficulty but I now know that it is a very difficult thing to do and am grateful for this support on this website. We are not bad people we just made some really bad decisions. I wish the best for you!!!!

Nov 20, 2011
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Two sides to every story
by: Cakeman

Have you looked at why it hasn't happened.... What did you do to make him feel like he wasn't being used?

Sep 20, 2011
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Dating a married man for 1yr
by: Anonymous

I have been dating a married man for 1yr and it has had its ups and downs. The bad thing about our situation is that I use to be his son's daycare teacher and I knew his wife well. Even though it was 15yrs ago when I had their son but it still looks bad. I never wanted him to leave his wife ever b/c I already knew that he wasnt and I never wanted him for my bf nor husband. I didnt enter into this relationship with the intensions on him leaving nor me being his wife. I was at a bad stage in my life and he just so happen to be there at the time when I needed somebody. We have good times together but I am ready to end this and move on but I dont know how to tell him. He has treated me like no other man has ever treated me and thats what makes it so hard to let go but I know that I have to soon. I was emotionally attached to him but I have managed to pull away and let him go mentally but physically and emotionally I still feel the need to have him in my life. I need help!!!!

Jul 27, 2011
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An Abusive user
by: Anonymous

I was in a relationship with a married man for well over 3 years which ended badly. So much pain and anger lead me to finally place an AVO against him to stop him from verbally abusing me and harassing me everyday. It began in 2008 and we started of as just friends until we fell in love. I won't go on about all the good things he said and promised me, because in the end they where just words to keep me close and interested in him. Oh how he promised me so many times to hold on to him, because he loved me so much and I was the center of his universe, but that was just a way to keep me by his side. The lies he told me about him leaving his wife for me when the time was right and how he never touched his life for well over 6 years was just BS. I finally woke up and broke free from all the lies, hurt and the verbal abuse I suffered because of his insecure and jealous ways. He never committed to me like he promised he would and in the end I saw him for what he really was and still is. A LYING CHEATING BASTARD!!... He is still using the internet as a means of hunting down a new Girlfriend, but lies to his wife and tells her his over cheating. Unfortunately the woman his married to is a stupid fool for believing him still, as I have recently found out his after one of my friends and proclaims his undying love for her as he once did to me. I am not writing this because I am angry at him, far from it. I am in a respectable relationship and one he hates.hahaha. I want all women to open there eye's and realize Married Men are not worth all the pain. Let go and be Happy!!

Jun 30, 2011
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I'm there
by: Jen

I've bn with a MM for jus over 6 years and it has been honestly like the worst roller coaster u could ever be on yet I continue to hang on. He has taken his wife away every year and each tme he says he maxes me and that he has to do it he has to take her away and that things will change when he gets back. Nothing has ever changed I've just become more bitter angry hurt jealous and my whole self esteem has plummeted I can't leave I know I should but then he says the words which I'm starting to not believe. They are leeches n they take away everything. Mine even has his own rules he does wat he wants but I've lost friends n I'm too scared too go out etc. The mental emotional blackmail n abuse really isn't worth it. He threatens me with things like "I will go n get a root" etc. He really is a pig but I can't leave why???

May 12, 2011
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Other Women
by: Anonymous

If your dating a married man chances are when he go home at night all is well basically he's missing something from home and he's not going to leave his wife. Your just a fuck that's he's content with starting with some demands you will see the change



May 02, 2011
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He is a CAKEMAN
by: Carolina

Hi Carolina,

I have 5 months ago finished a three year relationship with a married person...

I call them CAKEMEN and you know what that means.
They don't have the courage to end something that should have been ended years ago... or was it?????

We don't really know what goes on behind their doors when they go home to the wife.

So they are happy to find somebody to use for a while and they don't care how much mess they make along the way.

In the end you will find he will go back to his wife. If he were really unhappy he would have been out of there years ago.

All our affairs have bad endings, usually with the man choosing the wife. NO , you wouldn't really want to trust him with the rest of your life and total well being. Look what he is doing to hers. IF he really cared about his kids, he wouldn't be messing around.

He's just had two years of free fun at your expense. It isn't easy for you now... I know.

I am 5 month away from him and still I have days when I am downright miserable about everything.
He trampled on my heart and soul and then left me swinging.

If I sound bitter, then it's because I am. I hope on day I won't be.

Stay strong and walk away from the mess.

Carol


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