I was so sure
I started dating a married man 2 years ago. Since I had been on the receiving end of that kind of pain when my ex husband cheated on and left me for another woman, I told myself I would NEVER EVER become involved with a married man.
When he first approached me I told him just that, to end his marriage first before I would ever consider it. But he was persistent and pursued me relentlessly. I finally caved. He told me over and over that his marriage was over that they were like room mates, no connection, that he was miserable and they had gone their own separate ways. With my urging he finally moved into an apartment. That only lasted for 4 months, he never told me but he moved back into his house.
When I confronted him with that, he said she was going to be gone for a couple of months, the dog needed looking after and that it was silly to pay all that rent. I bought it. Then he told me he filed divorce papers, I asked to see a copy of the papers, they looked like only a financial agreement that the two of them had made to split the marital assets. When I questioned him about that he said that he had been told if the two people agree on the financial stuff (there are no minor kids) that a judge could grant a divorce without filing papers. He told me the hearing was set . That date came and went. When I asked him he said that she was out of town and that both of them needed to sign papers.
He had failed to tell me because he thought I would be disappointed. Then he told me there was a new date set in May and the night before that I got a panicked phone call saying she had found out about me. I really don't believe the story he told me, was full of holes, I think it was just another excuse to put off the divorce. He has told me again and again that he has no doubts about the divorce, he would be doing it if I was in the picture or not. But for some reason he can't pull the pin.
He constantly talks about our life together when we are married, I just don't understand....... I was so sure and now I don't know.
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