Is it cheating if you cheat on your married man?
I am 31yo. My MM and I met 4 years ago at work. I was married and so was he. I have 2 children and he has 3. We fell hard for one another and the first time I saw him it was like the movies. I knew I wanted him and I wanted him at all costs. We talked on the phone at work the first couple of years but he was moved to a different section and we didn't get to see or talk to each other as often. In June of 2010 I found myself realizing that I missed him terribly.
I missed our conversations at work and I felt like he was meant to have a place in my life so I gave him my number and told him I was interested in seeing him outside of work. Of course he obliged and as the relationship went on we got closer and fell in love. We decided to leave our spouses and start a life together.
I left my husband in Aug 2010 and got an apartment. The MM gave me the money to move out as I couldn't afford to do it on my own. He moved out in Sept of 2010 and we lived together until Nov 2010. I was scared. He became withdrawn and I could sense he really didn't want to be there. He missed his kids terribly and told me so. I never initiated a conversation about how he was acting and so I chose to ask my husband to take me back.
I did that because I felt like me and MM were not going in the direction we were supposed to and because I was just freakin' confused. I didn't love my husband in that way anymore I just didn't feel like my relationship with the MM was going anywhere because of his guilt for leaving his kids. The MM moved back home with his wife in Nov 2010 and has been there ever since.
This past Oct I got tired of waiting for him to leave and decided to go "cheat" on him thinking that would make me see that I can forget MM and move on. Well, it only made me realize how much I actually do love him. I've always loved him. Seeing each other on our days off and talking and emailing as much as we can. When he found out about me cheating he went ballistic. He said he couldn't understand how I could do that to him and he thought I loved him and that we were supposed to be different and special and that I was selfish for what I did.I know I was wrong for cheating on him because when you love someone you don't cheat on them but in these MM situations nothing is normal. Maybe someday he'll leave her or I'll leave him. Just can't imagine life without him though:(
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