Older woman dating younger married man

Seriously this is insane, I am 36 and he just turned 28 and we have worked together for 4 years when we started talking more and I sent an email for whatever reason that led us to where we are now. 8 months later and I am head over heels in love with this man and have read all the articles and seen all the signs and yet somewhere I still find it all so hard to believe he doesn't love me. They do not have any kids and yet he says soon........soon.........but when is what I long to know? She wants kids sooooooooo bad and yet he will not give her any and does not want kids with her for many reasons as well. He Has always taken care of her and now she is working yet cannot handle it and wants to quit because she is always tired and wants to be a stay at home mom but he has paid for her to get two educations and now that she has chosen her path of which career to follow she still does not want this one either. Seriously I have heard and read some of her message and I am not sure how she copes with life on a daily basis - she is always tired and always sick and I thought he was lying but I have actually heard her wining on the phone messages like a little kid in need of a parent to take care of them. So why hasn't he left? Is he scared she NEEDS him to take care of her or is he really working on it like he says he is? He cringes when she calls or texts and I personally remember that feeling toward my ex-boyfriend prior to me leaving him......He is the most wonderful man and would do anything for anyone and DOES everything for her including cooking, cleaning, laundry, getting gas for her, shopping....You name and he does it. It is more like he is the wife and she is the husband. I have never been so comfortable in any relationship the way I am when I am with him and NEVER have I ever been sooooooooo in LOVE but this is what I am hearing all women in my position saying. He does treat me like gold but I only get him on scheduled time and my time is running on low fuel. I have lost my job, some friends and family over this situation and have been told I am a fool but he swears he is leaving and will prove them wrong. Any advise?

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Older woman dating younger married man

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Jan 03, 2012
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now you have lost your job?
by: Anonymous

hmmm sounds like a familiar story to me. wonder why she doesnt have a job and is so depressed? maybe it has something to do with him. sounds like your traveling down the same road as her. now you dont have a job lost some family members and friends ? bet she started out that way to. the warning signs are right in front of your face , are you going to wait till he sucks all of the life out of you too. he sounds like a whinny little boy that needs all and i mean all of the attention of who ever is in his life till its all gone then he will go on to the next and the next and the next. and he will make it sound like it is all your fault to the next one it will be his same story to the next one but about you this time.

Jan 03, 2012
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poor victim he plays.....
by: Anonymous

oh yeah its all her right? common lady are you blind, it takes 2 to not get along. when you gonna see that he is playing the victim role and poor me i dont do anything wrong she is just a bitch. woman dont become bitches for nothing please. your not that important or powerful to make someone change. he has got a real big problem and it isnt her. so take him youll find out who was the problem in time . and i agree with the other comment it isnt any of your business what goes on in there marriage keep your narrsisitic ass out of it. and shame on you for being apart of there childrens pain thru this. he has just used you to deter the attention off of himself, now everybody can focus on the mistress . now do you feel important? and in control. thats about YOU. your very selfcentered and selfish not to mention SELFSEEKING all for your own gratification..... mmm sad!!!.

Jan 03, 2012
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I have your same situation
by: Joanne

You basically just typed out my story, although my MM and myself are the very same age, Our situations mirror in some ways. He cringes at the mention of her name, he voices his disgust with her and how bad he wants out of the marriage and that he is getting out. He does the same, they have 3 children now when I met him he only had 2 and that was 6yrs ago, at the end of last year he was telling me how he was going to leave in January and yes this month has just started but my heart is sinking, he had another child with her,one that he failed to tell me about , I actually found out on my own and yet he still says he is leaving this month, starting the process for separation, child custody. And although he acts disgusted with her, literally hates her he caters to her. Cooks , cleans, does laundry takes care of the two oldest children, he now has them with him constantly. We no longer have the time we used to have together. I too have heard the phone calls concerning her treating him like crap, talking down to him,there is nothing that he can do right, I do believe his love for his children is what holds him there because he truly does love his kids and coming out of a situation where we had a child together I could never understand how my ex could just disregard our son for a woman. Which He knows I would never ask him to do. I have watched his kids grow throughout our six years, I feel as if they are mine as well, I want nothing more than to love them and their father and show him a different life than what he and they are used too. She is a very dominant woman, verbally abusive to the children as well, but he is still there and added another child, which his explanation to me was this child is a product of a drunken stupor and sadness for the loss of me, because I had called it off with him. But even with this all I want is to love him and be with him. But its so hard for me to believe as I used too with the way he does everything for her, he says its to keep things calm in hell (thats what he calls home) for his children until he can leave. Just this past weekend they got into an argument because once again he did not do something correct in her eyes in the house so they got into a heated argument and SHE told him that she wanted him out and he told her that he wanted out , to just sign the damn paperwork and not be a bitch about him seeing the kids and she could be free. That happened on Sunday and yesterday he was right back to cleaning and doing the normal things he did to keep peace. I have decided that if he has not moved out my the end of this month I am letting go.

Dec 19, 2011
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by: Anonymous

you sure are spending alot of time trying to justify your involvement with this married man. whatever it really is none of your business what is going on in there MARRIAGE.................

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