Online affair is becoming so common in the today’s society. Sadly, relationship online can break real offline relationships.
By knowing some of the signs of the online affair, you can at least be prepared when or what to suspect. Although clues are never a real confirmation, they are always good indicator and it’s up to you to look into it further.
Let’s start by looking at some typical clues:
1. Your partner spends excessive time online.
Internet is definitely a positive thing to have. It is good for paying bills, doing some online banking, staying in touch with family and friends, or even shopping and bidding on ebay auction.
One powerful tool for carrying an online affair is the msn messenger and emails. There are heaps of free emails online and people can create multiple numbers of email accounts for free.
2. The computer use continues even after it’s bed time (actually that’s WHEN he starts using the computer)
Have you ever get woken up in the middle of the night only to find your spouse glued to the computer screen? If this is a repeated behaviour it can be a sign. Even work would have his limit (obviously if his job is a computer support for the Asia-pac region that is an explainable behaviour).
3. The computer screen is either changed or shut by your partner or spouse when you come close.
This can be another sign of online affair. In a rather panic behaviour, your spouse shuts off the internet and all you can see is the desktop. Now unless your spouse is just viewing some internet porn and you are known for being VERY unsupportive of that behaviour, there is simply no other reason for shutting things off.
4. You don’t know any password or anything about his email address. (Not to mention having some secret email addresses)
Have you ever seen an unknown email address in the hotmail sign in page, or have you unsuccessfully asked for his email passwords? I agree partners should have their own privacy, however if your spouse is reluctant to check his email in front of you, there might be something that he’s hiding.
5.Internet history is always cleared One easy way to catch online affair is to check his online activity. If history haven’t been cleared on the browser, this can reveal various information. You may check for some sites including matchmaking sites that your husband is using like Ashleymadison.com if you’ve never heard of it (That site actually targets attached male/female – so there you go).
You might even be fortunate enough to find his online dating profile that he puts up there.
So if the history is repeatedly being cleared after each day, this is clearly for spouses who is somewhat computer literate enough to know history can be tracked. Yes people should clear history after regularly to make sure computer is running on optimum speed, however, clearing history after each use may be a sign of online affair.
Lastly, your gut feeling never lies. If you are one of the fortunate people with intuition at least you will ‘know’ that something isn’t right, even if it’s online.
As I mentioned earlier, clues are never confirmation. Knowing such clues will put you on your feet, and be prepared of what POSSIBLY is happening. You shouldn’t accuse your spouse nor your should say anything unless you have proof that he is really cheating. (Otherwise, they’ll deny it).