what i never expected

So I bumped into this guy I had known for 20+ years-ironically 2 weeks before my husband of 13 years was set to move out- I told him what was going on and he told me he had been seperated for 1 yr. He texted me constantly for a couple weeks until I gave in and had sex with him. Then very little contact for a few weeks. I continued to contact eventhough in the meantime I discovered that he was anything but seperated. He was exciting= a flirtatious relationship that went way back, a biker and member of an mc club, but also- a good guy with a good job and his own business. Incredibly interesting, insightful, and romantic-great sex(i wasnt climaxing though)He would constantly tell me about his troubles with his wife and I was happy to listen-then I decided-I had suspected all along that I was being played and wanted the truth- I didnt care if this was a fling but he was making me feel like it was more- So I told him- DONT BULLSHIT ME- he immediatley went on the defensive and said he wouldnt hurt me=now I havent heard from him in 2 days-So it kinda hurts-but I think I did the right thing-nip it in the bud-it has only been 2 months and I know I can do better=I just really thought we had something- just before I told him to tell me the truth we had the best sex I have had in years-very close and sensual-I guess it was the best thing I could have done-before I fell to far- It is the hardest thing ever to be the other woman=The men who do this are professionals and have no hearts. If in fact he is walking away because I called him out I found out the truth before I made a real mistake- Lesson learned dont ignore your intuition...but hope for tru love always

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what i never expected

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Jan 01, 2012
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continued what I never expected NEW
by: crystal

I hear what you are saying- Maybe that is true- The last couple of weeks however have led me to believe otherwise-sortive. I still cannot trust what is going on, we have become incredibly close. We have said I love you-he has stated he is committed to leave his wife-but yet has not. Not sure what is reality. He is becoming my best friend and lover and I am scared. He is clearly unhappy in his current situation-but I cannot offer him any more than what we have. I love him but he is a member of a notorious biker gang that my family will never understand. Why must love and life be so complicated.

Dec 19, 2011
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you should never expect love NEW
by: rudy

Sounds like you're talking about a one night stand type of thing.You're infatuated by this dude.He's a player,he's busy with various things he's got going in his life.So that means you're way down his priority list dear.I would move on to someone who's available not a player and someone who'll make more time for you...Unless that's all you want is one night stands...

Dec 18, 2011
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am I part of the 5% NEW
by: Anonymous

Thanx for this post-This is one of those situations where u need to keep things in perspective! A completely juicy update- Friday night for my Xmas present-he had his tattoo guy come over and give me my first tattoo. It is something I have always wanted but my ex did not approve. It was an incredible experience and he stayed the night. The next morning he told me he had made his decision and was leaving his wife. Not sure what this means-but I think I am in love and scared of believeing him. Does love just happen or is this a huge mistake!

Dec 08, 2011
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learning curve NEW
by: shiv

i had a 'fling' with a guy when we were both in relationships, for me it was a sign that mine was over, also i discovered it was for him. we had months of amazing sex, but always on his terms, became friends also. he then just turned around and told me he was with someone that he really liked which hurt, but i was happy for him. i think what i learned was it is part timing, we had a dirty cheating relationship which would never have worked because of how it started! I don't regret it as it taught me a lot of good sex and hurt me badly, but i hope i took something good from it eventually.

never regret, just always learn x

Nov 30, 2011
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wow NEW
by: Anonymous

I suppose what you're saying is true-but-coming from the relationship that I have been in for 1/2 my life-I can't handle anymore. Sure a part of me wishes this was real-maybe it is. Sometimes, companionship takes interesting forms. I still believe this is OK..until it is real or isn't.

Nov 27, 2011
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I hope you're charging him NEW
by: rudy

You know Crystal,if you're smart you should be charging him for what your giving him.You're missing out on alot of money.You do have a six yr old to take care of now.You said you're not ready for a relationship.What do you call what you're doing with this loser? Are you just a free booty call? That's what it sounds like to me.Look up the word respect,you need some..

Nov 23, 2011
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still being played? NEW
by: crystal

So he did call- and was incredibly into me, no mention of our conversation- Then today- I texted him for a quickie-small window of opportunity for a little fun, it was great, hit the spot. His conversation was different though. I still dont know the truth-but I am enjoying theride. I think this is the hardest part of being the other woman. For me for now, I cant handle a relationship, I have a 6 yr old, a job, responsibilities. If I can look to someone for great sex and a lil fun on the weekends-a part of me says so be it-life is short-get me back in the saddle and ready to take it to the next level. I was feeling vulnerable when I made this post, I am just trying to keep the perspective of a temporary diversion and justify it to myself that if it wasnt me it would be someone else-Is that so wrong?

Nov 23, 2011
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lesson learned NEW
by: rudy

You were attracted to him and gave in to quickly.He played you and got what he wanted.Hopefully you learned your lesson.It's always a good idea to date someone a few months before you have sex with them.Then you would of found out what he was all about.And you probly wouldn't have had sex with him.OK,lesson learned.

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